6 TIPS THAT WILL REALLY HELP YOU QUIT COMPLAINING

“Complaining not only ruins everybody else’s day, it ruins the complainer’s day, too. The more we complain, the more unhappy we get.”
-Dennis Prager

We all complain, and we do it all day long. We complain to our spouse, our family and sometimes to strangers. Mostly, it is done for the purpose of relieving our own soul and getting things off our chest. But does this bring about any change? NO. And when complaining becomes a habit, it ruins everything. Tough situations become tougher and relationships suffer a lot. We all need to stop complaining to live a happier life. It is not difficult to quit this habit, just follow these 6 simple tips:

1. SEE POSITIVE IN NEGATIVE SITUATIONS:

Negative thoughts make us complain more. This deteriorates mental and physical health. All you have to do is to make efforts to see positive in negative situations. Surround yourself with positive people. This will be helpful in learning how to shun the habit of interpreting situations negatively. Looking at the brighter side makes you a happy person. It gives the ability to identify good in everything and eventually makes you get rid of your complaining attitude. 

2. BE YOUR JUDGE:

Instead of judging others, try hard to be a judge for your own thoughts and actions. Keep a record of how much you complain in a day. Figure out what is irritating you and making you ungrateful. Is it your school/college grades, or the behavior of your spouse or is it something at your workplace? Make a list and think of the possible solutions. You can work hard to improve your performance, you can be more loving to your spouse and your efforts can make you successful. However, realize that you cannot control each and everything. Let things go the way they are. Learn to take pleasure in every moment.

3. QUIT PERFECTIONISM:

If you are a perfectionist, then you are never going to be happy. Perfectionism will keep on driving you to make attempts to reach ideal goals. All you need to know is that there is nothing IDEAL in this REAL world. So try to be realistic. Remind yourself that it is quite normal not to be perfect. You will encounter failure and pain. Just learn to face odd situations positively.

“Strive for continuous improvement, instead of perfection”. -Kim Collins

4. DON’T EXPECT TOO MUCH:

Sometimes we expect too much from the people around us. This is one of the main reasons of our troubles. When someone fails to behave the way we thought, we start complaining. The best way to attain contentment is to stop expecting too much.

5. BE GRATEFUL:

Every person has his own way of looking at situations. An ungrateful person would always complain. Be grateful for the blessings that surround you and you will feel a change within yourself.

6. CONTROL YOUR ANGER:

A hot-tempered person is sure to have a complaining attitude. Take some practical steps to control your anger before it controls you. Anger management tips help you to deal with this emotion in a positive way.

DON’T BLAME OTHERS FOR YOUR FAILURE

The responsibility of your failure lies only with  you. No other person can be blamed for it. It’s you and only you who has to set goals and then take actions in proper direction. Take decisions and accept the results without complaining and without putting blame on others. Learn and let go =)

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5 Bad Thoughts That Will Throw You Off Track

Break through's are made when we change the way we think, when we alter our beliefs and open our mind to its full and witty potential.

The definition of “thoughts” is “An idea or mental picture, imagined and contemplated by thinking or occurring suddenly in the mind.” I believe if you can harness and channel the right thoughts you will be unstoppable in any walk of life. These 5 thoughts are mistakenly carried out by the best of us at times and may be the reason why you cant reach that level of success you have been hoping for.

5 Common Bad Thoughts & How To Break Them

Perfectionism

We have all heard the saying ‘no one is perfect’ and in my opinion……thank God! Could you image a world with total perfection? It would be boring and there would be no thrill of risk and nothing better to strive for or look forward to.

I believe imperfection makes something beautiful, real and different and this is how most successful people in the world get to where they are now, by embracing their flaws/imperfections and putting everything they can into their passion!

Thomas Edison invented 3,000 duds before he invented the lightbulb. He himself did not call it failure. Instead, he said: “Any of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

Taking imperfect action is the best starting point.

Comparing yourself to others

There is only one YOU and trying to be like anyone is a total waste of time I say!

Many entrepreneurs push you to follow your passion and to observe successful people and do what they do. I also believed this. Do what they do but do it in your own way; add your own personal flare and passion along with your high energy and action and you will succeed on your own accord and merit.

Everyone is unique so embrace YOU and concentrate on what you can, do not what others can do.

Thinking that you’re not ‘good enough’

Ok, so I am even a culprit of this at times however who are you or anyone else for that matter to say that you are not good enough?

I truly believe that your mind is the most powerful tool you have and thoughts become things! Start telling yourself that you are good enough, or better yet that you are too good and even if you don’t believe it, you will start to etch this out and create what once was just a vision.

We are all put on this earth for our own personal journeys and success’s and I know that no matter what anyone says, everyone has it in them to do anything they put their mind to! All you have to do is start believing it!

Doing too much at once

I read 10 books at a time and yes as thrilling as it is getting lost in 10 different stories and becoming one with all those different characters and adventures, it sure is hard to concentrate and focus on one at a time! How many books do you think I end up finishing? None!

This is a perfect example of why you concentrate on one thing at a time and don’t overload your plate with too many tasks at once. Even though it sounds fun and the excitement of wanting to finish so many things at once drives you to take everything on board, it really isn’t practical and you end up getting ¼ of everything done and finishing none of them.

Focus on one thing at a time and the satisfying feeling of accomplishing and moving forward will be enough of a reward to help you to successfully complete one thing at a time.

“But I” (Excuses excuses…)

The 5th and final rule is a ban on excuses! Everyone can find an excuse to do or not to do something, this is a known fact!

Excuses help us justify the doubts we already have about something so that the risk is lessened by a self belief for why we can’t do something.

However, I have a philosophy that everything works both ways so next time you find yourself making or finding an excuse why not to do something, change your way of thinking and force yourself to come up with an excuse as to why you SHOULD do that something!

Whenever I doubt something or find myself coming up with an excuse I ask myself this one little question:

What’s the worst that can happen?

Usually my answer to this is “It won’t work out the way I want it to” and if this is what happens then you know what not to do in the future or what to do when you try next time!

It’s all easier said than done and no one can help you unless you really want to help yourself  but one thing I do know is that we are all creatures of habit so if you start to forcefully change your way of thinking by following these rules then your body and mind will soon catch on and start to think differently in your favor, automatically!

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